Posted by Januari Perry on November 27, 2000 at 11:58:14:
In Reply to: Five long years... posted by Help on November 25, 2000 at 21:49:44:
I understand your plight. I was in a relationship for three and a half years just because it was the socially acceptable thing to do. I am a lesbian and this for me was hard because I loved the guy I was with- and still do- but I could never be in love with him or be as close to him as I could have been with a woman. I can honestly say that if it wasn't for my being gay, our relationship would have continued and probably would have been a wonderful relationship because he was and still is a wonderful person. But I had to be true to myself and let him know that while I loved him, I could never be completely happy with him because I would always be on the lookout for women. He was upset because he loved me also but he understood because he wanted me to be happy. We are still friends to this day (and that was two years ago) and we still go out and we still love eachother but I am now in the most wonderful relationship with the most wonderful woman and I am completely happy. This could not have happeden if I had stayed in the unfullfilling relationship thet I was in with him. I guess the moral of my story is that you have to be true to yourself first. If he is half the man you think he is he might be upset at first but he should eventually understand if he trully wants what's best for you.