Posted by oya on September 07, 2003 at 21:29:29:
the main problem that you have outlined here is that you don't seem to be grounded. if you love your girl then why sleep with another. and even after the "mistake" you still think of this other woman and like to discuss with her what the two of you did. i think its simple you have to decide what it is you want to do. women are special. they sense when things are not right, they know when someone is not being faithful either mentally or physically. you have to make up your mind what it is you want to do. your girl can feel all your uncertainties. don't look for a reason to leave her, be honest if you want to be free where you can see other women then do it, if not then make a whole committment. thinking in a lot of cases is like doing. it upsets are being, throws are auras off track, and women see right through this. by all means be true to yourself and thereby making everyone else happy. please dont look at this as a judgement call. you asked for advise, Oya